In today’s world of the Internet and social media, hopeful singles in search for their lifelong partner can increase their potential match choices exponentially via various online matrimony sites. For every three marriages, one is a direct result of meeting online,and the numbers keep growing by the day. While there is a wealth of opportunity of finding a compatible spouse online, the downside is that most people tend to rush to judgment based on superficial information that leads to settling too soon before finding a compatible spouse.
Spousal compatibility, especially in Islam builds on the actions of being loving, which in essence takes a great deal of time and a chance to get to know if a potential spouse is right for you or not. Finding a person that you enjoy spending time with in conversation, a person that share similar goals, religious values, one with whom you can be yourself around, and you feel that your vulnerability isn’t judged when with them are examples of compatibility and chemistry.
Islam teaches people not only to be truthful and realistic, but to also love for the sake of Allah (swt). The secret to finding a compatible spouse via matrimony sites is being honest in your profile. There is nothing worse than lying on your profile, then end up with someone who is completely different to what you are looking for. There are two institutional bonds, according to the Qur’an that Allah (swt) has perfected to direct the relationship between a man and woman who share the intention of staying together and to be recognized as a righteous couple. These bonds are engagement and marriage.
While taking part in halal online introductory sites is fairly new, young Muslims using matrimonial websites to meet prospective spouses can do so to meet people with whom they share both a cultural and spiritual value. And because there is no room for illicit affairs according to the teaching of Islam, courtship,and engagement between young Muslim men and women is encouraged as a precursor to selecting a marital partner.
Matrimonial hopefuls should, therefore, be careful when looking for love in today’s online marriage platforms because compatibility and chemistry are things that can be faked and even changed as a person sees fit. To make an informed decision, the following are ways to find a compatible spouse online:
- Look for a natural alignment of lifestyle choices and values between the two of you.
- Ensure that there is an emotional connection.
- Look for similarities in values that connect you to each other.
- There should also be a degree of chemistry between the two of you, which is to be judged once you meet in person.
If you want to end up with someone you love spending time with for the rest of your life, navigate this next chapter in life with confidence and understanding that there are various indicators that make a complete stranger compatible to you. Therefore, know thy self and know what you are ultimately looking for in a spouse.